What If Your Partner Doesn’t Want to Take Photos?

It’s disappointing. It stings a little.

But also — it’s okay. You’re not alone.

As a photographer and a mom, I’ve seen this so many times — and I’ve felt it too in my own family.

And here’s what I’ve learned: the best thing you can do is not to push, but to stay honest with each other and treat this whole process like a team effort.

Sometimes that means your partner doesn’t want to be in the photos — but they’re still willing to support in other ways: helping with the kids behind the scenes, carrying the bags, driving to the location. That’s showing up. That counts.

And sometimes it just means saying: “I’d love for you to be in some photos, but I hear you. Let’s find a way to make this work for both of us.”

You don’t have to be perfect. You just have to be honest and kind with each other.

And if you decide to move forward with photos — include me in the conversation. I’m not just your photographer — I’m part of your team.

Tell me what’s going on. Let’s make a plan that feels doable, and true to your family.

Because when you treat this as a chance to connect — not perform — it becomes something so much more meaningful.

Photos become memories. And even the hard parts… become part of the story you’ll be glad you captured.